June 22, 2012
Once again, The Fax of Life by Rabbi Packous brings me wisdom worth sharing. In the June 9, 2012 edition, Rabbi Packous shares “an interesting piece from ‘Quote magazine’ (September 1, 1985) about what children want from parents.” In 1985, I was a young family practitioner, just completing my first year in practice. I could have used this piece then and surely will use it now! The following is a direct quote from The Fax of Life:
1. They want harmony – their parents should not have unresolved and destructive conflict in front of them.
2. They want love. They wish to be treated with the same affection as other children in the family.
3. They want honesty. They do not want to be lied to.
4. They want acceptance. They desire mutual tolerance from both parents.
5. They want their parents to like their friends. They want their friends to be welcomed in the home.
6. They want closeness. They desire comradeship with their parents.
7. They want their parents to pay attention to them and answer their questions.
8. They want consideration from their parents – not to be embarrassed or punish in front of their friends.
9. They want positive support – for parents to concentrate on their good points rather than their weaknesses.
10. They want consistency. They desire parents to be consistent in their affection and mood.
The Rabbi goes on to say, “In essence, these children want from us what we should give every human being – respect, consideration and love.” What a great idea!