When a Bride Becomes Bridezilla

After reading Ask Amy's recent column in the Chicago Tribune, we thought that something had to be done about bride's who expect a little too much from their guests. In the letter submitted to Amy, a man admitted that the bride and groom (very good friends of theirs) expected them to assist with cleaning up following the wedding reception. We were equally horrified when the gentleman said the bride provided "reasons" for why he was the one responsible for orchestrating the clean-up.

What to do in a situation like that? You'll have to refer to the Chicago Tribune for Wednesday, April 25th to find out what Amy said! Needless to say, she was as horrified as us and made sure that there were two options of response available to the exasperated guest which we found heartily enjoyable.

Now, what can you do when a bride attempts to assign you a job you didn't elect to do? Of course, there are some gray areas... mostly involving being Maid (or Matron) of Honor. Many times those who are in that prestigious position get the short end of the stick many a bride will rely upon them for almost every concern. This blog is not for those people who may have to pick up the flowers or carry the Emergency Kit. This blog is for the innocent attendees who are surprised to discover that the bride may not be the best friend they ever had.

Here are some common dilemmas that occur in many weddings:

1. The couple that believes only certain people should bring a guest
2. The bride that tells you what you can and cannot wear (in this case, we are not referring to the "Black Tie Only" request on your invitation)
3. The bride who assigns duties outside of her wedding party
4. The bride that expects you to buy a $500 bridesmaid gown

There are two options of how to respond to these dilemmas. The simplest one, and usually the hardest, is to be up front and bring your concern to the bride (or groom). It may be difficult to save face, but your issue will be addressed. The second option is to suck it up and hope that passive-aggressive behavior will work. This option may get you nowhere and can backfire if you're not careful. Imagine the bride overhearing to your grumbling to another guest!

Now, what would you do if the bride to your next wedding gave you trash duty?